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Meditation types and practices

Today, I will be walking you through different meditation types and practices. I am inviting you to join me in trying meditation for the next five days and I hope you will see the benefit.

What is meditation?

Meditation is difficult to define, due to the number of different meditation practices that exist. However, my general definition is that meditation involves maintaining a focus in order to reach a sense of calmness.

Just what are these different meditation practices though?

Types of meditation

There are a ton of versions of meditation out there, but today I want to focus on seven of them. They all meet my above definition of meditation, but they go about doing so in different ways.

Mindfulness meditation

Mindfulness is being aware and in the present moment without judgement. This version of meditation can be used to increase your overall mindfulness skills.

With mindfulness meditation, you will find a comfortable position and start noticing your thoughts. You don’t try to hold onto them or change them, but simply notice them as they are.

Spiritual/religious meditation

This practice differs depending upon the spiritual or religious affiliation of the person who is practicing it. However, it is commonly used in many religions.

A lot of people think of it as similar to their prayer practice.

Mantra meditation

In mantra meditation, you focus on a word, sound, or phrase. You will speak this word, sound, or phrase aloud to yourself. This is the type of meditation you see in media where people are repeating “Om.”

If you are not a fan of silence, this could be a great meditative practice for you.

Focused meditation

With focused meditation, you will want to stay focused on one thing. This could be your breath or an object. It could also be a thought or one of your senses.

Focused meditation is useful because it can be done anywhere. You can essentially do it without anyone around you knowing.

Movement meditation

If you have trouble sitting still, this may be the form of meditation for you. Movement meditation involves parts of mindfulness or focused meditation and combines them with things like walking or yoga.

So, you would either cultivate a state of mindfulness or focus on something like your breath, then add movement.

Guided meditation

Guided meditation is the one that I find the easiest. For this practice, you will use someone’s voice as your point of focus. Usually, this is done by finding recordings of guided meditations. However, it is also sometimes done in person in places like yoga studios.

Guided meditations can be found through various apps and can be searched through Youtube. My personal favorite app is Insight Timer.

Music/sound meditation

Music meditation involves using music or sounds to achieve meditation. You can find music or sounds specifically for this on the internet or through many apps. The point is to find calming music or sounds, usually without words, and bring your attention to it.

I also recommend searching Youtube and Insight Timer for music meditations.

Benefits of meditation

Meditation can benefit both your mental and physical health. According to Healthline.com, here are just a few of the benefits you may receive from a regular meditation practice:

reduction in stress and anxiety
reduction in blood pressure
lower levels of pain
improved sleep
longer attention span

Creating a meditation practice

Now it’s time to create a meditation practice that works for you. I have a few tips to help you:

Allow yourself to experiment with different kinds of meditation to see what feels the most helpful to you.
Pick a time of day when you will meditate. Schedule this time for yourself every day. It is most commonly done in the morning or evening, but it doesn’t have to be.
Don’t push yourself to meditate for too long to start with. Build up slowly.
Do your best not to judge yourself if your mind wanders away from your focus point. It’s normal and okay.

I hope you will try to build your own meditation practice! It really can reduce anxiety. As always, let me know if you have any questions in the comments down below or you can find my contact information here!

Until next time,

Danna

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The Last Letter – In Memory of Doris Stephens

Today I will be writing something a bit more personal. I lost someone very special in my life last week, and I haven’t taken any time to really process it.

It’s not an easy thing to do. Grief is messy and hard to feel, but it’s a necessary part of the healing process.

I am inviting you to process anything or anyone you’re grieving for alongside me today.

While I will be processing in the form of a letter, it’s up to you to decide what will work best in your situation. Remember, it is okay to be sad and it is okay to acknowledge that sadness, to yourself or others.

Take a deep breath. Let’s begin.

A letter to my Great Grandma

Dear Great Grandma,

I can’t believe we won’t be exchanging letters anymore. I kept having hope that you would get better. And even though it was unlikely, I kept hoping you would get to go back home and carry on like you always had.

I’m sorry that I didn’t call while you were still doing well enough to talk. I wanted to, I really did. But I didn’t know what to say.

I didn’t want to mess up our last conversation, so we didn’t get to have it.

I didn’t want to tell you about why I was leaving school because I didn’t want you to worry about me. Because I didn’t know what my plans were in terms of going back, I felt like a giant disappointment. You valued education and always told me that an education is something no one could take away from me.

I was worried about what you would think if I decided not to go back.

(I am going back though.)

I’ll miss family gatherings with you. I’m really going to miss the excitement of getting letters from you.

When I was a child, we were at the beach together and all I wanted was to chase the seagulls. I kept saying to you, “Hurry, hurry!” I wanted to catch them so badly.

Now, I wish I could tell my past self to just slow down. There’s no need to hurry things along. You don’t have forever with the ones you love, so you’ve got to make it count.

We will be okay, but we all miss you every day.

You will forever be my favorite pen pal.

Love always,

Danna

Self care when you are stuck at home

There are so many different ways you can practice self care when you are stuck at home. First, let’s explore what self care is. Then, let’s talk about some examples.

What is self care?

Self care is a phrase that people throw around frequently, but what all does it encompass?

While self care can absolutely involve bubble baths and rest, it also involves things such as being productive and taking care of your physical health.

People often argue over whether self care is the “easy” work or the “hard” work.

Self care is not one or the other, but the balance of both.

The BACE method of self care

My favorite method of self care is the BACE method. It’s pretty simple. There are four categories: Body, Achievement, Connect with Others, and Enjoyment.

Your goal should be at a minimum to complete one thing from each category per day. If this feels easy to you, bump it up to where you find it’s just a little bit of a challenge to achieve.

Some things may overlap, and that is okay. Just put it in the category that you feel it makes the most sense for you.

Taking care of yourself is important in any situation, but it can be even harder when you are isolated from others. The following are some examples of things you can do as self care for when you are stuck at home.

Examples of “Body” self care for when you are stuck at home

Maintain proper hygiene. I know how easy it is to skip a shower for a day if you aren’t going anywhere, but you will feel so much better if you shower anyway.
Eat foods that make your body feel nourished. This doesn’t mean you need to stick to a strict diet, but I know I have more energy when I eat a variety of food groups in a balanced way.
Exercise. Take your dog for a walk. Take yourself for a walk. Engage in joyful movement as your body allows.
Get some sunshine. Your body and mind will thank you.

Examples of “Achievement” self care for when you are stuck at home

Get caught up on projects around the house. Have you been meaning to redecorate your office or paint the bathroom? Now is a great time.
Stay on top of household chores. Keep up with the dishes. Clean your bedroom.
Work from home. If your job allows you to work from home, make sure you are taking advantage of this perk.
Complete online coursework. If you’re taking classes, don’t let yourself fall behind in school! Try to watch the lectures live if this is an option for you.

Examples of “Connect with Others” self care for when you are stuck at home

Utilize phone calls and text messages. Don’t let yourself stay isolated just because you are stuck at home.
Use FaceTime or Skype. Video calls can be even better than phone calls or texts.
Email your friends. I find that typing out a few paragraphs to friends now and then helps with feeling alone.
Write letters. Is there anything better than receiving something in the mail that’s not a bill or an ad? I love getting letters and there are more people out there who like penpalling than you would think!

Examples of “Enjoyment” self care for when you are stuck at home

Play games. You could play board games, do crossword puzzles, or play video games.
Watch TV. There are so many interesting shows out there to keep you busy while you are stuck at home.
Journal. There’s lots of different ways to journal and when you are stuck at home, you have a chance to try them out! You could try bullet journaling, art journaling, journaling about your day, or you could check out my post on gratitude journaling.
Create something. Use those artistic capabilities. Draw, paint, or sculpt. Practice crocheting, sewing, or knitting.
Learn a new skill. What’s something you’ve always wanted to know how to do, but have never had the time to learn? Well, now’s the perfect time!
Read. Now’s a great time to catch up on all those books you bought but never read! I know I’ve got a few.

Keep a routine

Don’t forget the importance of sticking to a routine. People have a tendency to fall out of routines when they are stuck at home, but a routine can be immensely helpful.

Try to get up and go to bed at the same time each day.

If you are working from home, set working hours and stick to them.

Set certain times aside for productivity and leisure. Make sure you have a routine for meal times and hygiene.

Just remember: Self care isn’t selfish. So go ahead and practice some self care. You deserve it.

Please reach out to me if you have any questions, or comment below! (You can find my contact information here.) And don’t forget to subscribe to my email list so you can always keep up to date on my posts!

Until next time,

Danna

Seeing a therapist

Seeing a therapist sounds daunting at first. However, in time, it can prove to be not only helpful, but even life-saving. But how do you know if you need to see a therapist in the first place?

Is it time to consider seeing a therapist?

If you are asking yourself this question, there is a good chance you could benefit from therapy. Here are a few other questions you can ask yourself to help with this decision:

Am I struggling to control my emotions? – For example, are you getting angry, anxious, or sad to a higher level than the situation warrants?
On the flip side, am I repressing or bottling up too many emotions? – This can happen for many reasons, but it is a sign that you may be struggling to express your emotions in a healthy manner.
Am I crying more than I used to? – Getting overly teary can suggest that there is something you need to work through or process so that you can begin to let in more happiness.
Am I experiencing a major life change? – For example, are you grieving a death in the family? Have you recently moved away to college? Have you gotten divorced? Even getting married to someone you love may trigger significant stress.
Have others or myself noticed a change in my mood or behavior? – Are you acting or feeling different than you’re used to, whether noticed by yourself or others?
Am I struggling with self destructive tendencies? – If you are struggling with self harming behaviors, disordered eating, or suicidal ideation, it is definitely time to seek help. If you are currently experiencing suicidal ideation or another crisis, please go to this page for immediate resources. (Note: The resources on the page are US only.)

But now what?

So, you have determined you need to see a therapist. This is a great first step and I applaud you! But now what?

Where to find a therapist

The first step in the process is to find choices of therapists.

My recommendation is to use Psychology Today to find a local therapist. They have so many different ways you can narrow your search and you will be able to see if the therapist has been verified with Psychology Today. You can find someone who uses a certain modality, someone with the specialty/specialties you are looking for, you can search by gender, and so many other things!

On that note, you may also be more interested in telehealth. If this is the case, I think that BetterHelp is a good, relatively affordable service for that. They will walk you through a survey to find a therapist who is a good match for you. If you do not feel like that person is a good fit, you may switch to someone else. Most of this post will be geared toward in-person therapy, but feel free to ask questions in the comments or contact me!

Narrowing it down

Once you go to Psychology Today, you will find that there are likely a lot of option somewhere near you for seeing a therapist. It can feel overwhelming to think about choosing one, so I will walk you through some things that can help.

First, make sure you have selected “therapists” at the top of the page and then type in your ZIP code or city. If you think you would benefit from a support group or psychiatrist, go back and look through those options after.

The difference between a therapist and a psychiatrist is that a psychiatrist is a medical doctor who prescribes medication for psychiatric conditions whereas therapists use other methods of therapy. Most do talk therapy, but some do art, music, or other modalities. It is not abnormal to be seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist.

You can use the filters on the side of the page to narrow down your search based on whether you would like a male or female therapist, any mental health conditions you have been diagnosed with, and what treatment modalities you are interested in. You may also filter based on therapists that accept your health insurance.

Then, it is time to start reading some profiles to get a feel for them. This will give you an idea of the clients they tend to work with and if you like what they have to say. Scroll down some to see their prices and if they offer a sliding scale.

Your first time seeing a therapist

It’s almost time to start seeing a therapist. Pick your favorite from those you narrowed it down to, but don’t discard the rest of your list just yet.

You can email the therapist or call the number listed on Psychology Today to set up an appointment. Some therapists offer a free phone consultation to see if you would be a good fit. Don’t be afraid to ask if they offer this, and take advantage of it if they do.

When you have your first appointment or a free consultation, make sure you ask them to explain their treatment beliefs and modalities to you. It is okay to ask questions.

You can also expect that they will ask you a lot of questions. They may give you a questionnaire to fill out. They will likely ask why you have decided on seeing a therapist and a lot of background information on your life. If at any time, this makes you uncomfortable, you are allowed to say so and not answer the specific question. However, I would encourage you to be as forthcoming as you feel that you can be so that they have the most information to be able to help you.

After the appointment, evaluate how you feel about seeing this therapist. It is okay to see someone else on your list if you decide this person is not a good fit for you. You also do not have to make that decision after just one appointment if you still feel unsure.

Everything will be okay.

You have taken a wonderful first step if you are realizing you need to seek help. There is no shame in seeing a therapist.

Taking the step of seeking help is a strong thing to do.

And if you need to seek help, you can do it! I believe in you.

Until next time,

Danna

Gratitude Journaling Benefits and Methods

Gratitude journaling is something that brings me great joy. It allows me to reflect on my day and my life.

But what is gratitude journaling?

Gratitude journaling allows you to reflect on the things in your life that you are thankful for. There are so many ways to use a gratitude journal, but in this post, I will be discussing my top three methods, as well as the benefits of gratitude journaling and how to start one.

Four benefits of gratitude journaling:

Gratitude journaling can have several positive impacts on your life. First, it helps you recognize positive aspects of your life and draw attention to them. This can help with negative thinking patterns and help lower levels of depression.

It can also help you be more thankful for the people in your life. If you are taking time to reflect on what others are doing for you, this can have a positive impact on your relationships.

Gratitude journaling can also improve your physical health. People who keep a gratitude journal have less symptoms of physical illness and less pain than those who do not. They also report both more sleep and higher quality sleep because they are not tossing and turning from stress as much.

It can improve your self-esteem by helping you reflect on your accomplishments. Gratitude journaling can also help you feel like you are a person who is worthy of the kindness of others.

Three methods of gratitude journaling:

There are many ways one can keep a gratitude journal. I will be discussing my top three favorite methods. I invite you to try each of them and see what works for you.

GLAD Journaling:

GLAD Journaling is my personal favorite way to do gratitude journaling. I learned about it from my therapist quite a while back and I still use it frequently.

GLAD is an acronym that stands for Grateful, Learned, Accomplished, and Delight. At the end of the day, I like to write one sentence for each of the four categories to help me reflect upon my day and recognize the positives. The four categories may overlap some. This is okay. You can put things into whatever category feels best to you.

The “Grateful” category is pretty self-explanatory. Write about something you are grateful for that you experienced or appreciated that day.

In the “Learned” category, you write about something new you discovered that day. It can be anything from learning something about yourself or others to learning a new skill or fun fact.

For the “Accomplished” category, take a moment to reflect on everything you accomplished that day. Write down your favorite or biggest accomplishment, something you are proud of for that day. Even accomplishments that others may consider small can count. You deserve to be proud of yourself for whatever you were able to accomplish.

For the “Delight” category, write about one thing you enjoyed about the day or something that made you really happy. Writing about my “Delight” for the day always makes me smile.

Your GLAD Journal might look something like this:

3 things I am grateful for:

This is a second method of gratitude journaling. It does not have categories like GLAD Journaling does. Instead, you simply come up with three things you are grateful for each day.

Try to do this at the same time each day. Many people prefer to do this in the mornings, first thing when they wake up.

While it sounds like a fairly simple exercise, the challenge comes when you have been doing it for a while since you want to try your best not to repeat yourself over time. This means that the more specific you can get, the better.

Yours could look something like this:

What would my life be like without this?

The third and final method of gratitude journaling that I will be sharing with you today is “What would my life be like without this?” This is probably the most time consuming of the exercises, but it does go deeper than the rest.

For this exercise, you will want to think about something or someone really important to you. Write it down.

Then, you will start to write about how your life would be different without this thing or person.

Close out the exerise by writing “I am grateful for _____ because _____.”

The following picture is an example, although I would recommend trying to make yours longer if possible.

Starting a gratitude journal

Starting a journal of any kind can feel overwhelming to begin with. The first thing I like to do when I am starting a new journal is to pick out a journal that makes me feel excited. I have found that when I have a pretty journal, I am more likely to continue using it.

Another important thing is to find a writing utensil that feels good to you. That may sound silly, but there’s nothing worse that trying to write with a pencil that squeaks or a pen that doesn’t write smoothly. I have recently discovered the magic that is erasable pens and it has honestly been a game changer.

Once you have your journal and writing utensil(s) picked out, it’s time to pick a method to use. There is nothing wrong with going back and forth between different methods of gratitude journaling, nor is there anything wrong with sticking to one method.

The internet has a plethora of ideas for more specific prompts if that’s your style. If you are struggling to come up with things to be thankful for, I would highly recommend searching for gratitude journaling prompts. Then you can decide whether you would like to adapt their ideas to fit one of the ideas above or do a free writing exercise on a prompt.

Until next time,

Danna